December 12th, 2007 at 11:38 am
Making Impression
As sequel to the post, What Women Want –since I couldn’t sleep yesterday, my mind went searching deep for things that people told me or I experienced myself. I know there are some hapless chaps out there who need guidance when it comes to dealing with the fairer sex. Since, ladies are called the fairer sex, they have to be dealt with as delicately as possible. Some guy friends complained to me that they don’t know what makes a woman tick. So, I enlist here some of the things that turn a woman on or off.
1. Being Attentive
If you notice, the previous post, a few ladies listed attention as their foremost criteria. Most women would love to bask in attention given. Some women think by getting attention from the opposite sex means, they are still having the “IT” factor to attract males. It would make the women’s ego sky rocket. However, being attentive does not mean stalking. By contacting your girlfriends around the clock to check on her, is not ideal.
A good example of being attentive, when a girl is sick or feeling unwell, getting medicine for her or making her soup would score you high points. Or, remember what a woman tells you – no matter how petty it may be.
On the contrary, if you are not interested in a woman, please stop paying attention to avoid further complications. Women are sensitive lot and sometimes, a good natured gesture could be misread as a promise. Look at what happened to Mr Yum Kong. That woman is insane!
2. Blardy good sense of humour
I remember a friend who never lack of attention from the ladies. He is a nice man to begin with and one thing about him is his ability to make people laugh uproariously. In fact, when he finally married the girl of his dreams, a lot of people who don’t know him asked her, what did she see in him? She said – he makes me laugh.
He said something to me that still ingrained in my mind before he got married. “I know I cannot promise her wealth or luxurious life, but I will make her the happiest person the rest of her life.”
How sweet!
3. Basic communication skills
I think any ladies would like men who have at least basic communication skills. Communication skills here do not mean that you have to babble about yourself as much as possible. When we go on a date, we don’t want to know how much you have in the bank (can we know that? Hahahah), or your cat gave birth to triplets yesterday, how many vacumn cleaners (as well as the brands!) you sell to make pocket money during college days or the weather (when people ran out of things to talk, they talk about the weather).
This goes hand in hand with no. 1. Telling us about you and at the same time – showing interest by asking the ladies about themselves and listen attentively. I know most men would be already thinking of something else as we talk and ask us to repeat. That is very annoying. I particularly cannot stand a man who adores himself too much – he probably looks at himself in the mirror and wanks himself silly when no one is looking.
And last but not least, if you like a woman – you gotta tell her. I don’t think subtle hints work anymore. Women nowadays need assurance of words from your mouth.
4. Wit
Women love witty men! I guess this is the basic instincts for females to sniff out intelligent genes for them to lend their eggs to propagate. Smart men turn women on. I love witty men!
5. Generous
A generous man would score very high in a woman’s book. If you really like woman, I suggest you splurge! It’s not that I am asking you to buy her expensive presents. Small gesture like paying for meals on dates or movie tickets would be good enough. I heard of horror stories of ladies who went on first dates and they had to pay themselves. I know it’s a feminist era – but I always think; a guy should always pay on first dates. And if you were to meet the girl’s girlfriends, it would be great if you would pay for the drinks. You would earn extra brownie points.
6. Decisiveness
I know when you ask a woman what they want to eat – they would say, ANYTHING. So a lot of men wish that all restaurants should have “anything” as part of the menu. So they could order anything (hopefully it’s cow brain) for her. Hahahah! I don’t know about these women but it irks the shit out of me too! I guess it’s better for the man to decide what to eat. Instead of asking her – what do you feel like having? You can try saying – shall we have Japanese tonight? Lebanese? Sudanese? (This is related to No. 1 also – to know and remember what is her favorite food unless she is a stick insect – so probably you would only need to bring her to the barn).
Sad to say, it is always me who call the shots in such situation. And I remember my date telling me he would eat anything. When we settled for pizza – he didn’t even want to eat pizza and had spaghetti instead.
7. Keeping promises
I know most men would promise the world when they are trying to woo a girl. I think this is part of a game. However, I think it’s better for a man not to promise anything if he knew that he would not do it; because it doesn’t only make him look bad – it makes him a f*cking liar.
Once a friend confided in me whether or not to accept a guy as her boyfriend. I don’t know why many friends always seek approval from me as if I were their mother. Hahahaha. Uhm.. anyway, I asked her what does he do? He is a technician. Does he have a plan for the future? Yes, he plans to further his studies (he is only has SPM). I think you should encourage him to further his studies first, then probably spend time to go out with you later once his career is stable. I think it’s better this way.
Exactly like I predicted, she went ahead with him. Love is a complicated thing, it doesn’t make sense. They went out for three years and he still has yet to step foot into the college which is situated just 5 minutes drive away from his house.
They broke up in the end due to a lot of empty promises.
8. Planning for the future
I heard of a friend whose boyfriend wanted to bring her to see his mom after two weeks of meeting! That is so sweet of him! Hahah! Anyway, I am not talking about getting married straight away. When you are planning for the future – include her in part of your plans. It would make her feel very happy.
9. Sweet Talk
Any woman who does not succumb to sweet talk; she either has a heart made of stone or probably deaf. I know a lot of women got sweet talked and sold their lives to their husbands. Well, it work, ain’t it? So, eat more sugar and exercise your tongue (as in talking, I mean).
10. Money
If all else fails – it doesn’t hurt if you could make tonnes of money. Well, this is a materialistic world we are living in now. Then it doesn’t take much to impress the women. They would hunt you down like predators and it’s very hard for you to shake them off! If you have money – you don’t even need to read this post!
Disclaimer: This guide is merely plucked out from my observation and do not entirely reflect the views of the entire woman’s clan. Some women don’t mind not having the above and still be happily attached.
If you notice, I never put in physical attributes as pointed out by Datin. He said he likes men with big bulges in their pants. LOL! Physical attributes requirements differ from people to people.. and since it’s genetic, I don’t think you can do anything about it unless you want to consider plastic surgery. If you have a big bulge like what Datin wanted – I don’t think you would have any problems drawing women to you!